Ascent of the Dove

There is a time in childhood when the child learns to become what the adults around them need. The child learns when to be quiet. When to smile. When to say, “It’s okay,” when it isn’t. The child learns that certain truths are too uncomfortable, too...

What Are You Actually Giving Up?

The Difference Between Letting Go and Losing Yourself There is a question that comes up frequently in conversations about relationships: “Am I settling?” It is an important question, but perhaps it is not the best one. The word settling carries an assumption...

More Than Peeling Potatoes

There is an old story about Napoleon that I’ve always loved. As the story goes, Napoleon was walking through a military camp when he came across three men peeling potatoes. He asked the first man, “What are you doing?” Without looking up, the man...

The Losses That Shape Us

There is so much loss in a lifetime. We lose time. We lose money. We lose beloved dogs that once waited for us at the door. We lose childhood toys that seemed irreplaceable. We lose innocence, certainty, safety, dreams, our parents, our health, and eventually, pieces...